Why We Need to Let
Go and Move Forward
Throughout our lives we go through
different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and
unpleasant. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are
constantly thinking about it. And when you constantly think about that negative
event you prevent yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you
recall everyday? Many of us have a number of unpleasant experiences that we’re holding
on to, which is preventing us from moving forward.
The more you carry
the worse life gets. Why? Because you've filled your mind
up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that
doesn't allow you to move forward, in short, you're carrying useless baggage
that's really slowing you down.
Think of it this way: you're on a
hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that
really don't serve you. After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and
unless you get rid of them, you'll never complete your trip.
To let go you have to get your mind
to focus on different goals and different objectives. It's not about saying: I
let go of the pain from my fight with ---- and move on. That will help, but if
you really want to start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on
new things, in the process you automatically let go of the things that have
been slowing you down.
How to Let Go and
Move Forward
Hanging on to negative past events is
a process that can destroy your life in ways you're not even aware of. Ask yourself these pertinent questions:
1) Do the negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose?
2) Do they help you move forward?
3) Do they work in your favor in any way (do they benefit you in any way)?
If you said no to any or all of the above then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn't help me so I'm letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations. When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations.
The next step is to create an action plan; the past is over. Where do you want to go now and how do you plan to get there? You may not have the answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions. The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction; having new thoughts that will create the incentive to move forward.
The final step is to
live in the present moment; to start living in the now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the
now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present
moment. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once
thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere else. You are
not hanging on to something, you are here now. I know some of you may say the
following: "where I am right now really stinks, I don't want to
think about it." It only stinks because you're looking at all the negative
things going on. Focus on a few of the positive things anything from nature to
the wonderful family you may have. This forces your mind to look at things
differently, telling yourself that you’re ready for new possibilities, then
you’ll begin to let go and move and reach forward.
